Thursday, September 16, 2010

Teething, Tantrums, and Two

Greetings! Bethany here. I have been incredibly thankful for Tim's postings. I miss reading his updates even though I share a room with him and get updated quite frequently. :)

I am currently sitting on the bed next to Toby who has just graced me with a giant snot bubble and a mound of fresh spit up while listening to Promise cry on the baby monitor because she has just woken up from her nap.... *sigh*.

Toby is now two months old and what a handsome little man he is! Though fighting a bit of a sinus infection (I have to give him saline drops twice daily and then suction all that green mucous out...eww), he smiles every time I enter the room and looks expectantly for his loud and silly older sister. He is so precious. His personality is starting to show, too. He hates being alone....even when asleep! He knows when I leave the room and will immediately show his displeasure by letting out a quick shrill cry. Thinking he has hurt himself, I race in there only to see him smiling because he got my attention. As long as I am holding him, he is content....however, with him growing well passed 14 pounds now, my hips are crying out to put him down! He is already out of his 3 month clothing and we have had to change to medium size diapers because the amount of excretion surpasses that of most grown adults. We are blessed....hourly. I love having a boy!!

Promise is growing just as fast sporting new words and sentences daily. She is a hoot and I am ever surprised at what she picks up. She discovered her daddy's real name a bit ago and has tried, "Hey, Tim!" and "Where'd Tim go, mommy?" We have to keep reminding her that his name is "daddy". :)

She is super independent and yet, has entered a "hold you" stage...that is, every couple of minutes she asks, "I hold you? I hold you?" meaning, "Will you hold me?" Usually it is in response to teething pain or anxiety, of which there has been a bit these days. Our current living situation has not been conducive to a transitioning 2 year-old. Between the dogs and constant change over of visitors and strangers in the house, Promise prefers to play in our bedroom. Living in community has been tough on her, though Tim and I have enjoyed meeting and getting to know so many new people. When we return to Canada, our home will certainly be less full.

Speaking of which, we are planning to head home November 15 and will be living in Abbotsford, BC. The Lord has gone before us and we have the privilege of living in a basement suite below Tim's parents. The set-up will be a huge blessing for us! A place of sanctuary and rest, home base for the kids and close to family....all the reasons we desire to head home. We look forward to our first Thanksgiving and Christmas at home with our families. God is faithful. We have even had friends and family collecting furniture, winter clothes, and the like for us so we can set up house! We are still in need of a car, as Tim will have a bit of a commute to work (more on that later).

We plan to be there for at least 6 months, but are certain we will head out overseas once again to develop more water projects and serve in midwifery. I will let Tim share with you what his work plans are when we return to Canada. They are pretty cool. I, too, may need to work a bit, perhaps teaching prenatal courses. We are not sure what I will have time to do other than hang with my precious ones...which I must say, is a full time job!

I have been spending most days trying to prepare for heading back to's amazing how much paperwork and "stuff" gets picked up after 3 years overseas! I have also been trying to secure Promise in her surroundings.....we threw her a Birthday party the end of August with as many familiar faces as possible including her favorite babysitters and playmates. She LOVED having friends over and since then, every time the gate squeaks, she announces, "Friends are here!" even when they are not visitors for us, but for the other tenants in the house. ;) I am also trying to set up a daily routine with the two kids that will easily be transplanted back to Canada....I must say, having TWO small children is quite the challenge. I knew it would be tough and I am amazed at how resilient my aching, overtired body is! Our routine for both kiddos seems to be feed, bathe, change, feed, rock, change, feed, etc. until bathe, put down to sleep and try to sleep. Pretty normal, eh? :)

Tim has been an incredible support, too....we are both in love with our kiddos, but gosh, two screaming children with incessant barking dogs, yapping puppies, and a busy household can really wear on us. This too, shall pass.

In all honesty, I am still struggling to find my "place" in 'our' calling....The Lord sent me to university to get a teaching degree -- check! Then He sent me to the Philippines for a midwifery degree -- check! He has us wait 6+ years before having kids and then SURPRISE right in the middle of what we thought was the "start" of our overseas what? Tim is sure of his calling and passion....and mine seems to change yearly. :) While I am not bitter or at all disappointed in this, I am confused as to when these degrees will be used. Guess that's something for the Lord to figure out and let me know later. I love being a mom, but I still feel that PULL to do what I have spent countless hours, tons of money, and moved halfway across the world to do....if my calling is to stay at home with my kids full time, then I really want to do it with my family nearby....if the Lord wants me to both raise a family and divide my time with midwifery or teaching, then I want to be overseas serving. I dunno...I miss working at the clinic here and I miss seeing my peers minister there, too. God gives me situations here and there to help out and advise patients and peers here in midwifery, but it is not quite the same as working along side them.

I think Tim and I are in a funny stage of life.

Please keep us in your prayers as we continue to prepare for moving...again. :) Please pray that the Lord will protect our health, too, as both Toby and Tim have been fighting colds on and off. Please pray that the Lord will go before us and prepare a home for us that will bring Him glory and us joy. :) Please pray for our finances, as it will be a very difficult adjustment living in the West. Thank you for all of your support, encouragement and prayers. We are so blessed to be partnering with so many of glad to have family reading.

We will try to update the blog more frequently now that some of the dust is settling. :)
Be blessed.


Anonymous said...

Thanks for the update, B, and for Tim's latest blog as well. Makes me feel more connected with you and what is happening in your life.

Will continue to pray for you as God's plan unfolds. Sounds like a wonderful season of loving-on your babies and waiting. . .I can soooo relate.

Anyways, sending so much love to you all.


BeccaLynn said...

Bwahahaha! Was Promise scared of her cake and the candles? Seth was terrified at his 2nd birthday party, too. I'd worked so hard to make him a cool(ish) cake that looked like a train, and when the candles were lit and we started singing, he began wailing and would NOT even eat a bite. The next day, we tried again (without candles) and he still wouldn't touch it. It's hilarious, and yet a little disappointing after you go to all the work of doing something you think they'd like ...

Anonymous said...

Good blog, Bethany. Love the pictures of Toby! Do I see red hair? Can't wait to cuddle up with that little guy again and play toys with Promise in person. Also, have good conversation and coffee with my best friend...:)
Love you,

Anonymous said...

Thanks, Bethany. As always, your comments and pictures make being so far away a little easier. One more prayer request; that our house will sell quickly for a good price so we can set up that new home for you. The days will fly by now, and we're excited to see all of you. As far as your place in the grand scheme of things, my encouragement is to find contentment in the current season and to trust God with the big picture. Much love, Mum

Bethany said...

Hey, Christina! are we allowed to make that public knowledge!? If so, next blog is entirely on that subject! God is faithful and I have no doubt your place will sell....hoping it goes fast, though! Love you!

Anonymous said...

I wholeheartedly concur with Christina's advice to just enjoy each moment as it comes. You'll know what to do when the time comes. Remember, God's got a plan and I think you are right in the centre of it. Rest there, dear friend . . . as much as you can!
LOLAP, Sylvia

briellegrace said...

Hi! I have been reading your blog and that of many other current Newlife students and/or veteran students, and I am so inspired! I'm only 12, but am already planning on going to Newlife! I've got 5 years to go, but I'm already saving up! I really feel like God spoke to me and has called me there, so I am really excited! I think midwifery is truly the best job in the world.
It is a real God-mission!

Anyway, I am really impressed with what you're doing. God bless you in all you with everything!

You have the cutest kids ever! Promise is such a beautiful name. And not to mention those adorable puppies!